Two people could live in the same house, not being married. They could have kids and still wouldn't need to get married. They could even share the bills, still no marriage needed. So why is it such a big deal when two people get married?
Why do we need marriage? Are we afraid we'll lose that person if we don't have legal papers binding us together? Or a ring to show we're committed?
My question is this: Why get married?
I agree. I think marriage is sort of like just paying money to show your love. you know?
ReplyDeleteMarriage. I don't know, it's sort of a token of love, but now that I think about it, it really means nothing. Maybe it's just the idea that their heart is yours forever.
ReplyDeleteWhat's the point of not getting married though if you are going to make the commitment to raise kids together and pay for expenses together and be so commited to someone. It seems to me that marriage keeps you honest to the person you have made commitments with. It seems like you would think twice about having an affair with another person if you were married but if you weren't married then it would be so much easier to....share with everyone.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Michaela. Marriage = commitment. If your not married it's probably alot easir to leave the person your with. Plus marriage has been tradition for years! Haha i think you pay for love enough with out getting married as much as you do when you are. I also think that marriage unites a family. Mother and father, husbund and wife and their children. I guess another question is why not get married? I think getting married makes you look like a more responsible, trusting, loyal companion. And, if you never get married it's like you dating your whole life! kinda...the relationship just isn't as solid.
ReplyDeleteAgreed with the above.
ReplyDeleteI'd like to think I want to get married someday but I'm a hard person to be with. I can't stsay one place for too long or I go crazy and I get bored with people. So someday, I'd like to meet someone who can either put up with my pyschobabble or be crazy with me because I don't believe I've ever met a person who could do either and it's the only thing I'd even think about being a requirement to marry a person. Plus the basics. Like no drinking/smoking/abusing. And of course, loving me. And I loving them in return.
But the legal marriage of it all, seems to make it a permanent heathy commitment, if with the correct person.
people get divorced all the time, and cheat. when they ARE married. so it doesnt really do anything to have a paper say that you will be with them forever. that;s why i'm saying, it's the same if you're just together and committed and of you're married and commited. on;y difference is: no marriage liscence. and maybe no ring.
ReplyDeleteI agree completely but.... I think that some people are raised with the idea that they could have someone to spend the rest of their entire life with. And I guess, if you want to get married or not is a joint decision but I would want to because I have security issues.
ReplyDeleteIf someone wants to be with me for as long as forever is, I'll have to be with them for several years before I married them.
It's very sad that people cheat and divorce but it does happen... A lot.
It's a personal decision, how you want to look at your life. How you want to spend it, I guess...
I think people get married for the happy feeling. I asked my mom when she got married why did she get married, and she said cause she truly loved her fiance, but my dad has been with his girlfriend for seven years and they aren't married. So why do we get married.
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ReplyDeleteAll it really is is a symbol to show that two people love each other. It also symbolizes a promise so that people dont just lets say jump around from house to house. And of course its commiting adultery to live with and have kids with someone you are not married to.
ReplyDeleteI think theres tax benefits to being married so it might be that.
ReplyDeleteGetting married is supposed to show your commitment to your partner. That is not always the case for example: cheating. There are people who have lived long happy lives together w/o ever getting married. I think its all in the couples choice, and you don't need a huge wedding to show your love to the other person.
ReplyDeleteIf you are going to take the time to raise kids with another person, and keep a household with them, why no get married? You get added benefits for being married and it also shows commitment to the relationship, and it also gives a day in which you can always remember was one of your happiest days.
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ReplyDeleteI believe Marriage is for some people, and not for others. Personally I am more impressed by a dating couple that stays together for life, than a married couple that seperates 5 years in. Just because you have the label of "marriage" does not necasarrily mean you are married, in your heart.
ReplyDeleteMarrige is for commitment. If you are going to spend the rest of your life togetther, you should get married.
ReplyDeleteI think it's the symbolism that people like and it may be the next step in a relationship that's standing still.
ReplyDeleteI think only a few people are meant to get married. Most people can't handle it. I think I can handle marriage.
ReplyDeleteOne of the biggest things about getting married to me is that if you plan on having children, being married benefits them financially and gives them better health benefits such as insurances you can only get from being married.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is a commitment. If you're going to have a family, and you want to stay with that person forever, you should get married.
ReplyDeleteI think it has to do with that just knowing, and having that symbol(ring) to say i have made a commitment and hopefully am sticking to it.
ReplyDeletedunno it can be a special symbol to some people i guess.
ReplyDeletegetting married isn't something to be concerned with, in my oppinion. Yes, it would be nice to have a spouse, but it isn't a nescssity...
ReplyDeleteI totally disagree. I think marriage is a big thing. Getting married and having a ring, it symbloizes that you have promised your husband or wife that you will stay with them forever. You love them through any hard times, you will always stay by there side and take care of them. A ring shows your commitment in the relationship. The real question for me is whay are people scared to get married! They are scared of commmintment, they think it wont last, they look at others relationship fell apart so theres is going to too! But that shouldnt be it, people should want to get married and be committed to someone for the rest of there life. Staying honest and supporting them your hole life no matter what, that is love and thats what getting married is about! Its not about the ring, its not abou the dress! Its gettin get to spend your whole life with the one person you truly love!
ReplyDeleteDONT get married it doesnt work. ( i have a bit of pent up anger on this issue)
ReplyDeletemarriage is a commitment you have to know the person for a good amount of time beforew you get married you need to know about them know what theyre like when theyre upset, mad angry, sad ... you have to really know the person and be commited... i think mariage is something specail
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