Friday, October 2, 2009
Lies taken to seriously..
To lie is sometimes the best way to go, but i can get you in a lot of trouble. You could just be playing a game on someone but it goes to far and you end up hurting them instead. So i want to know how far is to far? Does it depend on the person? On the lie? How do you decide whether or not you it will hurt someone in the end??? How do you decide whether you care enough not to lie to that person??
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You picked a good time to post your post.
ReplyDeleteSince you answered my questions, it's only fair.
ReplyDeleteHow far is too far? I think if you have to plan out the lie, and/or create false evidence, then it's too far. If you have to get your friend to back you up, for instance, it's too far. It does depend on the person, but the problem is, everybody is hurt by loss of trust, both the trusting and the paranoid, so though the line may be farther back (the line that means you lost trust when you cross it, that is), crossing that line is always bad -- and I don't think we always know where it is. some people are more sensitive about certain kinds of lies. So yes, it also depends on the lie. For instance: I HATES it when students act as though I'm stupid. Like I hear somebody making fun of another student, and I say, "Don't do that," and the student says, "What? I wasn't saying anything bad." Yes you were. I know you were. Just shut up, okay? That infuriates me, even though it isn't much of a lie. (It's okay when people do it jokingly.)
How do you know whether or not it will hurt someone? If you know the person well enough, you should know, and that's probably the safest time to lie, if you have to. If you don't know the person, maybe it's best to play it safe. As for deciding if you care enough, I can't give you any advice there: you do or you don't.